Most men have a high sex drive that usually comes on full force as young men. These desires start due to an increase in testosterone in the early teen years and run wildly like the bulls in Spain through the 30’s.

The problem is that no one ever talks about why the desire to have sex declines with aging or what you can do to fix it. The natural ego in a man makes this conversation a very tough one to have.  A lot of men correlate the lack of sexual desire with working and the added stress that comes along with it, this does play its part.

However, if you will recall when you were a young man, your average day could have been filled with a class starting at 8am, studying after school followed by 4-5 hrs of work, and capped off with a party and possible alcohol consumption till 2am.

You would still have the desire to chase a young lady, hoping to engage in some sexual fun. As opposed to now where you come home from a long day, maybe play with the kids or walk the dog, eat dinner, watch some TV, and possibly roll over and give your wife 4-6 minutes she probably wishes she could have back.

What happened and how do you fix it? Women have menopause. Is there a male equivalent and does it affect your sex drive?

The Male Pause

Andropause or male-menopause is a recognized problem that men also experience hormonal changes and a decrease in testosterone production. Finding ways to maintain a higher testosterone level will most likely result in a healthier sex drive.

Men in their 20’s and 30’s need not be alarmed. This change is something that typically happens to middle aged men. If you are struggling with sexual desire, do not be too shy to consult your doctor about your decrease in desire. I guarantee you will not be the first man to have this conversation with your physician.

Many medical experts believe that having a strong sexual appetite well into your 70′s is achievable, if you’re doing the right things.

Symptoms

• Decreased sex drive
• Lack of energy
• Weight gain
• Loss of muscle
• Hair loss
• Excessive sweating
• Irritability

Mental State of Mind

Psychological factors play a part in men of all ages. Of the two major reasons for decreased sexual desire, I believe the psychological situation is easier to fix than the physical.

In the crazy, over competitive world we live in today stress does play a part in one’s desire to have intercourse. This is something that can be fixed by just spending a little “you” time – not referring in any way to masturbation.

Take a day to just clear your mind and do some things you’ve wanted to do and put aside the things you feel you have to do. Try to alleviate stress by realizing that things are going to happen and do your best to try and make the outcome favorable to your situation.

Depression is another big one that plays a part in decreased sexual desire – also the medication you may be taking can hinder your seeking of the flesh. Realize that you may be suffering from depression and take the proper steps to regain a happy mindset and lifestyle, I know it is not easy.

I know from first hand experience after going through my first big heartbreak – a 4 ½ year relationship ended while we were engaged to be married – I suffered a tremendous decrease in my sexual desires. The recovery process took about 6-8 months before I regained my lust for women.

How to Erect the Situation

What you eat can play a larger part than most people would think. Obviously eating poorly such as fast foods and less fruits and vegetables can contribute to a very lethargic state.

It’s not only about what not to eat that can play a part, but also the right things to be eating. Acquiring a diet high in natural aphrodisiacs could increase your libido to levels it has never reached before.

For example foods like oysters, almonds, avocados, bananas, and many other foods are proven to increase your testosterone levels and could have you back in the saddle in no time.  If you’re really hard up for more frequent hard-ons you may actually want to have a smorgasbord of all these foods.

Get Your Blood Pumping

Another thing that happens as we get older, and this goes for men in their mid to late 20’s, is our amount of daily activity goes down. After years of being involved with sports or various physical activities and sharing the same schedule with friends (making it easier to go to the gym on regular basis) some of us get jobs and become more sedentary.

Exercising has numerous amounts of positive effects from helping the body look good, which in return helps the body feel well. Also studies show that 45-60 minutes of exercise can increase testosterone levels.  Note that more than that can lead to a decrease in testosterone levels.

Alternative Options

If eating right, straightening out your psychological state, and exercising don’t work for you then you always have the option of consulting your doctor.  Depending on your health they could get you on a supplement that could naturally boost your testosterone levels.

Before you rely on one of the many popular male enhancement creams or pills, you should ask about what you may be able to change in your daily routine that could return your sex drive closer to normal for your age.

It is hard for men to realize that they may not have the desires they once had when they were a young man. A large part of the American male culture is bragging about their sexual conquests with women in their various circles or locker rooms.

It is important to take in all the determining factors and find out which one may be the reason for the decrease in sex drive. Once you get your body and mind back on track things will start to point in the right direction more often!

Additional Reading on GenXXL:

• Four Great Sex Workouts
• Sexy Sizzling Summer Beach Body
• Increasing Sex Drive With Food:P90 Sex

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Welcome back for the 18th episode of the GenXXL Health Podcast!    Join Tony Tucker and Shahara for the next 20 minutes as they discuss:

• Fast weight loss – 2:10
• How to use hemp in the kitchen – 6:55
• “P90 Sex” tips for increased sex drive – 11:55

Enjoy the podcast and tune in next week for another great episode!

Additional Reading on GenXXL

• Faster is Better for Weight Loss
• Sowing Seeds of Good Health: Hemp
• Increasing Sex Drive With Food: P90 Sex

The Podcast

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To start this article off I feel it is relevant to borrow a phrase from the MTV generation’s Salt-n-Pepa, “Let’s talk about sex”.  More importantly, let’s talk about how to increase your or your partner’s sex drive by the consumption of various foods.

I could use the word libido as opposed to sex drive, but libido sounds like a word my grandparents would use.  I think it’s safe to say that none of us want to think about our grandparents when discussing sex.

I often hear the complaint from men talking that after being with a woman for a while she loses her appetite for sex. I’m sure it has nothing to do with the fact that the man has stopped being romantic, put on weight, and in some cases acts like because he has a woman he is entitled to a certain amount of penetration.

I also believe there is a unspoken percentage of men who lack the sexual desire necessary to please their woman; they just don’t say anything because a lot men have a locker room mentality and pretend like they could sexually satisfy multiple women at the same time.

Whatever your reason for looking to increase your sexual activity is no business of mine, but if my research on this topic can aid you in any way it is my pleasure, or more accurately, your pleasure.

Eazy-E “Give Me That Nut”

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I know that I have just made my second reference to 90’s rap music. Men, you can’t deny that back in the day certain rap videos were also great for arousal…I’m getting off topic.

The smell of almonds is said to arouse passion in females.  Almonds are a great source of essential fatty acids and also give you healthy hormones which is important if you’re going to have a strong desire to stroke.

I would suggest to any man who has been on a few dates with the same woman and may be looking for an edge to close the deal the bedroom, if you want to get that nut, maybe go on a healthy binge of almonds the days prior to the big date.

Wetter Than The Sea

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When I was younger I heard people reference how certain kinds of seafood would supposedly make those who ate them hornier.  After I got to an appropriate age I found out that oysters are linked to increasing baby making activities.

Oysters contain plenty of zinc. Zinc is vital for producing testosterone and is also beneficial to sperm.

The added bonus is that oysters cause the body to produce dopamine,  a hormone that results in additional sex drive in bodies of both men and women.

Any men out there looking to partake in some long overdue love making, take her out for a seafood dinner and order a platter of wet and slimy oysters to help seal the deal.

The Darker The Better

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Men you know when you get into a fight with your woman and have to say you’re sorry, remember this: Flowers say “I’m sorry”, chocolate says “I love you”.

Well according to the Journal of Sexual Medicine, chocolate not only displays how you feel, but also may help you get laid.  A study in 2006 showed that women who ate chocolate on a daily basis were more prone to sexual activity than those who didn’t.

Dark chocolate contains two important ingredients that will help you get back into her heart and possibly her pants.  Dark chocolate contains serotonin, a mood booster.  Also phenylethylamine which mimics the brain chemistry of a person in love.

So the next time you’re in the dog house, be sure to bring a box of dark chocolate and give her a foot message.  If all goes well maybe there will be a few extra pieces left over that you can melt down and get freaky with.

Is That a Banana in Your Pocket?

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A banana can be used to arouse men in more than the way most men are thinking of right now, watching a woman slowly eat one.

Eating a banana will help too, as it contains the bromelain enzyme. This is thought to increase sex drive and in some cases cure the most feared word in the history of men–impotence.

I watched a documentary one time on monkeys and they said that monkeys had one of the highest sex drives of any animal.  Now I get it, men start getting some potassium, case closed.

Testicle Tree

The Aztecs called the avocado tree “ahuacatl”,  or translated in to English, the “testicle tree”.  Avocados naturally increase male hormone production due to the large amount of vitamin B6.

They also have potassium.  It’s effective for both men and women to regulate the thyroid gland, which ultimately increases sex drive.

Avocados also provide you with better, healthier looking skin.  For you single people out there, this fruit now has two ways to help you get laid.

Spice Up The Bedroom

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I’m not suggesting you take any of these following items in the bedroom, although if your love making is really boring it couldn’t hurt.

Women’s Health has suggested some aphrodisiacs (a substance that increases sexual desire. The name comes from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sensuality and love. Throughout history, many foods, drinks, and behaviors have had a reputation for making sex more attainable and/or pleasurable) that could help you feel frisky from the inside out.

Ginger-a stimulant that may increase blood flow to the genitals

Honey–contains simple carbohydrates that provide instant energy and fuel for the working muscles.

Nutmeg & Clove–help your nervous system relax (nutmeg more than cloves).  Not too much nutmeg though, it could have hallucinogenic properties.

Celery–releases a pheromone that triggers female attraction.

Flax seeds–helps increase testosterone, a very important hormone in boosting the need for bumping uglies.

These are all great ways to try and increase your sex drive, before automatically relying on that little blue pill.  We’ve all heard the side effects: blurred vision, headache, facial flushing, upset stomach, erection lasting longer than 4 hours. No thanks.  Banana anyone?

Additional Reading on GenXXL:

• Four Great Sex Workouts
• Sexy Sizzling Summer Beach Body
• Optimum Sex Length: 3 to 13 Minutes?

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Have you ever finished having sex with your partner and felt a burn? Make no mistake, I am talking about the burn in your muscles not in your genitals.

If certain sexual positions are done correctly you can receive the benefits of an actual workout.

“Lack of activity destroys the good condition of every human being,
while movement and methodical physical exercise save it and preserve it.”

This quote on exercise was given to us by the Greek philosopher Plato. I doubt he was referring to sex with this bit of common sense that has been passed along the ages, but it definitely applies to sex workouts.

The following tips will not only give you a physical bump, but may also increase the amount of sexual activity you’re partaking in. However, none of these activities will be done without the proper stretching techniques.

Valuable Love Making Muscle Stretches

Sex has to be the best way to workout on the planet.  If for some reason it’s not for you,  you should try some these positions and tell me if you still feel the same way.

Just like any solid workout, stretching before and after is vital to the body’s performance and progress when exercising.  What are three great areas to target before engaging in one of these sexual workouts?

No. 1 Groin Stretches

These are especially helpful for women to keep the hips and pelvic area loose and flexible. For a woman to stretch this area she should lay on her back bringing her heels into her groin.  Then slowly spread her legs down towards the floor applying slight pressure on her inner thighs with her hands.

For men it is nice to have your woman help and maybe even lead to a little arousal or foreplay.  Men should lay on their backs with their feet pulled in towards their groins, with their knees pointing to the ceiling.

The woman should kneel in front with her legs straddling by both ankles to hold the position. Finally press gently on his thighs slightly above his knees until he feels the stretch in his hips and groin. Hold this stretch for 30 seconds.

No. 2 Quad Stretches

To get a quality stretch on your quads you are going to do the hurdlers stretch.  For this sit on the floor or bed and bend your legs at the knees so your toes are pointed directly behind you.  Then slowly lean back until you feel the stretch in your thighs and ankles. Make sure to hold this for 15 – 20 seconds and repeat 2 – 3 times.

One modification for people with any type of knee injury is to try this stretch while standing up. Pull your heel towards your buttocks while keeping both knees together. This modification helps reduce any stress on the knee.

This stretch is very important for whose ever on top. Ladies, later I will introduce you to the benefits of one of your mans favorite position for you to be in and this stretch will come in handy.

No. 3 Lower Back

Stretching your lower back is so important for people with back trouble or those who intend to get really freaky. This exercise is simple, but really helpful. Lay on your back, bring your leg to your chest by bending it at the knee and pulling into your chest with your hands.  Bring your leg down slowly and repeat this with the other leg.  After you have done both legs separate, bring them up together and hold for 30 seconds.

Now that you have the knowledge on how to get limber for love making, lets learn how to make your body keep yearning for a burning.

Wheelbarrows Just Got Better

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The wheel barrow position is just like you would imagine it. The woman starts from the push-up position. The man grabs her by her thighs elevating her pelvic area to comfortable position creating the appearance of wheel barrow.

Now that the woman is elevated to the push-up position she will receive a workout to her triceps area, chest, and also to her abdomen.

The man will receive a great bicep workout from holding her. Also, when the man starts to do his thrusting he will receive abdominal and back workouts.

This is not an every time position, but will provide results if you mix it into the rotation. Men, — one suggestion –  if you want to continue this sexual position, don’t drop her on her face.

Ride’em Cowgirl or Lotus

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Ladies these two are for you. Men if you find your women complaining that being on top is too much work let them know the benefits. Then you can just kick back and enjoy the show.

For these sexy time exercises men sit down (Lotus style) or Lay down (Cowgirl style) on the bed and women sit on top. For Lotus style the next thing women should do is wrap their legs around the man.

At this point women, use your arms and legs to move up and down from either position. By doing this women will receive a great workout for their legs and arms which is more fun than spending that extra time on the elliptical.

Also for an extra bonus for women, I have heard it is sometimes easier for women to climax on top. Ladies if you need something done right, you might just have to do it yourself.

Maximize the Missionary Position

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The missionary position is the most common style – most likely you had sex like this for the first, wonderfully confusing, short experience.

Men mainly get the workout on this one in their abs, arms and legs depending on how long they can hang.

Women looking for a workout from this position should stretch your back, and then arch it when you can and tighten your abs. SheKnows.com compares it to doing Pilates in bed.

Patti Britton, author of “The Art of Sex Coaching”, talks about a woman strengthening her core from applying this method.

“You can strengthen your core by focusing on pelvic lifting using your core, not your lower back. That’s where women tend to get stuck – they tend to rely on their lower back to give them propulsion.”

“She Knows” also recommends for women looking to push it f arther, they should tighten their Kegel muscles.

Steamy Shower Scene

Everyone has seen the scene in the movie where the woman joins the man in the shower and he hoist her up, pushes her against the wall and gives her some sweet lovin’.

The standing sexual position for a man is an amazing arms, shoulders, back and legs workout that you must be in top shape to perform.

For a woman this “hop on and ride it” position can also have its benefits.  The woman has to have strong upper body strength to hang on while he rocks the boat.

With these tips you can now give your body pleasure and a workout in one activity.  For all you single people out there who have friends with benefits, now you can have an exercise partner with benefits too.

Additional Reading on GenXXL:

• Sexy Sizzling Summer Beach Body
• Optimum Sex Length: 3 to 13 Minutes?
• Breaking Down Men’s Fitness: “25 Ways to Get Stronger Now”

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Summer is here and it’s the best time of year to search for love. Whether you’re looking for a passionate night of panty tossing or the fire of a lifetime, you need to prepare your body.

One potential place to find love is the beach. This summer men and women will spend countless hours splashing in the water, tanning and surveying their peers.

What is it that the opposite sex is looking for? Let’s just say the odds of a girl saying to her friends, “OMG, is he reading Catcher in the Rye,” is highly unlikely.

I don’t believe, in the history of heterosexual men, that any of them have ever said, “Now those are great shoes and they match her bag.”

Bringing Sexy Back

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Like it or not, we live in a visually stimulating world. Men and women are initially attracted to the package because they don’t know what’s inside. If I were wrong about this then lipo/plastic surgery wouldn’t be so popular and shows like “The Hills” would be starring a bunch of fat chicks.

Control the things you can control. Work on the parts of you that have room for improvement. Men can get a six-pack, beef up their chest and arms, and work on their legs if they’re too skinny.

Women can shape and shift those curves to have men singing like R & B star Ginuwine— “How can I get into those jeans?”

Which body parts are the most important and how can you maximize your sexy self while pimpin’ at the beach this summer?

Tummy? Only if You Got Money

Thanks to Calvin Klein underwear models and guys like Brad Pitt, most women flocking to the beach this summer will be looking for rock hard abs.

Having chiseled abs shows that you care about your body and everyone knows that they are hard to come by. Men’s Health has a six-pack rated as the No. 1 thing women look at on a man.

All the crunches in the world won’t cure midriff bulge, so do cardio everyday for at least twenty minutes. Tighten up or add definition from your own home with any of the “Top 10 Most Effective Ab Exercises.”

Back-Up Plan for Bagging Babes

If you don’t have the flat, defined stomach desired by women, I suggest keeping your shirt on more often than not. If you’re going to be wearing a shirt, then fill it out in the chest and bicep areas.

These are two areas that are easy to workout, adding mass and definition. Men’s Health quoted a poll from Cosmopolitan stating “1 in 5 women confessed that nice biceps on a man make them ‘absolutely melt.’”

All you have to get is a set of Perfect Push-ups and dumbbells according to your size and you’re ready to go. When doing push-ups rotate from a wide, standard and center position to hit all angles of the chest. Don’t forget to mix in some shoulder shrugs to keep things in proportion.

All the Single Ladies

There are three main areas for a woman to increase her sexy. Maintaining a flat stomach is important. It doesn’t have to be ripped—no man wants to date G.I. Jane.

It is valuable to have solid looking legs so you can make the man fantasize about having your legs wrapped around his waist. Doing yoga or Pilates will help keep your legs lean and sexy.

The most important female feature to work on is the butt. For some women it is a gift from god and they just have to maintain their roundness. A woman like J-Lo has even based a career around her derriere.

Two of the most popular exercises for toning and shaping a woman’s butt are squats and lunges, but there are many more.

Girls benefit from the fact that most men think with the head in their pants and not the one on their shoulders. A girl at the beach may not have the trimmest thighs or flattest stomach and could still have her pick of most men by wearing a tank-top and booty shorts. If she just happens to get that tank-top wet, it’s over for most men.

Sexy Back Workout Routine

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No matter how you workout, it is vital that you work some cardio into your everyday routine.  Working cardio with any list of other exercises you do for toning, shaping and firmness will allow you to burn additional fat and yield faster results.

Men’s Morning Body Bonanza

15 minutes of cardio – Jogging, Jumping Rope, Biking

40 – 75 Push-Ups

8 minutes or 8 Sets of Abs

4 sets of Bicep Curls – Hammer and Regular

2 sets of Shoulder Shrugs – If needed—you don’t want it to appear that you have no neck.

All of this can be done in about 35 – 45 minutes first thing when you wake up while you watch the news or “Sports Center.” Do this in the morning so you can get fresh and clean and still appear swollen at the beach.

Women’s Morning Body-licious

15 minutes of cardio – Jogging or Stepper-(helps the butt)

8 minutes or 8 sets of Abs

Yoga or Pilates video (if you don’t have one, go buy one)

Weight lifting is important for women to increase and maintain bone density, but most men are turned off by a girl who’s overly muscular and bulky. Men don’t want to hook-up with women who look like they could kick their ass.

Following this advice will have you looking stellar at the beach this summer and if you need more than suggested in the workout department, don’t be lazy and get it done. I hope this extremely vain article helps you have some sizzling hot hook-ups at the beach this summer.

Additional Reading on GenXXL

• Boost Your Gains with Kettlebells
• Is Crossfit Fit for You?
• Born to Run…Barefoot?

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The Kansas City Chiefs are a troubled franchise.  In the NFL they have sunk to the bottom of the barrel with little hope of rising to the top.

Their owner, Lamar Hunt, died and his son took over.  They fired Herm Edwards so they could have a shot at a young hotshot–Todd Haley.

They hired Scott Pioli away from the Patriots just so he could trade for Matt Cassel.  Hell, they even brought back Gunther Cunningham to coach the defense–hereafter known as the “Harbinger of Doom.”

Now they have new problems.  It seems they have someone who likes to talk.  Actually, Dwayne Bowe likes to hear his own voice.

I know I’ve mentioned this before, but don’t you think Roger Goodell brought more attention to negative press by being the “Sheriff?” Well, he’s given Dwayne Bowe a forum to open his stupid mouth.

The talk is of “importing” groupies for NFL players.  Nevermind the implications for the Chiefs, but what about the players?

This could be much bigger than a bathroom at a Milledgeville, Georgia, bar.

Bowe Claims They “Bring Them In”

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Remember “Lethal Weapon?”  When Roger goes to see his old friend Michael Huntsecker and Huntsecker tells him all about their drug operation?

Huntsecker says, “…and we’ve been bringing it in ever since.” Well, we’re not talking heroin–Dwayne Bowe’s talking women.

His claims come from an interview with ESPN The Magazine.  I still shudder at how hard it must’ve been for the interviewer to not pass out as Bowe gave them the story of a lifetime.

Some of the accusations are pretty obvious.  Players have girls in every city.  Players meet girls on Facebook and Twitter and arrange to meet them.  Players have affairs.  That isn’t scandalous–because we already figured that.

If that were the whole story we could just put Eva Longoria on the task of outing them.

Bowe also claims that players put things together for a road trip to San Diego in 2007.  He says, “some of my teammates had it set up so there was a girl in every room[of the hotel]….”

Bowe goes one step beyond that.  He says that players brought in packs of women  a couple days in advance of a game.  He even says that they’d take up whole floors of hotels housing these “traveling groupies.”

Let’s say this is true.  Let’s say that Dwayne Bowe is the “Jose Canseco” of the NFL groupie “importing” trade.

That means NFL team dollars could be spent on groupies instead of salaries, facilities, community outreach or publicity.  That means that NFL teams might be spending their money on groupies, while the owners head for a lockout?

This has HUGE implications–besides the fact that it’s completely salacious, and we wouldn’t stop talking about it for a whole year.

Fidel Goodell Will Be Coming Back

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Do we really think that Roger Goodell isn’t intrigued by these allegations?  He isn’t intrigued because it piqued his interest.  That would make him just like me.

No, Fidel Goodell is wondering what in the heck he would have to do to the Chiefs if this were true.

The Patriots lost a draft pick for “Spygate,” while players, coaches and owners get fined routinely for saying things the league doesn’t like.  Pacman Jones got suspended for a whole year just for being stupid.

What do you do with a team that “allegedly” — gotta put that in there –”imports” women for their players?  At the very least they let it happen.

How do you penalize the whole organization for something just a couple people might be taking part in?

Someone has to arrange travel plans.  Someone has to book hotel rooms.  Someone has to inform the players of the groupies’ arrival.  Someone has to find the groupies.  Someone has to try to keep it quiet.

This couldn’t be as simple as the owner throwing around some cash and doing the players a “favor.” You’ve got to be organized to pull this off.

If, by some miracle, only players are bringing these women in–they’d all be suspended and fined.  That’s probably about it.

But heaven help a team that was even remotely complicit in this.  Could you imagine the PR atom bomb that would explode in their face?

NFL Security Can’t Do Its Job

I think we all know by now that the NFL has its own security department.  Lots of retired FBI and law enforcement dudes who now get paid a “pretty penny” by the league to keep teams and players safe.

They also investigate player wrongdoing.

When is NFL security going to have time to “secure” anything?  I can only imagine the resources required to figure out if a player is organizing for “imported” groupies at a hotel the week of a game.

That leads naturally to my next thought:  Would this be considered “Lack of Institutional Control?”  They have that definition of stupidity in the NCAA rulebook.  Doesn’t that apply here?

I’m not saying the league would take over the Chiefs, but they might put a “czar” with the Chiefs to keep them in line.  If states do it with public schools, then the NFL might do the same with their teams.

The Chiefs pay somebody millions of dollars to play football and that money is being funneled into borderline escorting/prostitution.  Fidel’s next question is surely…

How Come The Chiefs Didn’t Know About This?

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Once again, this is all alleged.  There’s no way in the world players were “importing” women and somebody with the team didn’t know–hence the need for a “czar”.

This also leads to much deeper issues of corruption and collusion.

In my humble opinion, no team that has something this major going on is fit to field a football team every weekend.  I bet you anything that Fidel Goodell is just as upset about a breakdown in competition as he is about “importing.”

All eight home games the Chiefs played… Were they played with players who had clear heads, or were they played with players who spent the whole night before with some chick they’d never met before?

Maybe all the ticket holders deserve a refund for every game that’s been blown by over-indulged players.  That would be a much harsher punishment than a fine or the loss of draft picks.

If you’re going to hurt yourself competitively by not nipping this in the bud then you’ll have to give your money back instead.

How come the Chiefs didn’t know about this?  Because they didn’t want to.  Someone probably looked the other way and that will cost the team dearly.

If you’re in the Chiefs’ front office and you heard about this, you would be deathly afraid to speak up.  Instead you would just spend every sleepless night thinking of all the “worst case scenarios” if people found out.

Now People Have Found Out

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Why is Bowe speaking out now?  Somebody probably pissed him off.  That person in the Chiefs’ front office who must’ve known about this–because there must be somebody–probably told them to stop.

Or, one of the players Bowe claims “imported” the women pissed him off and Bowe outed him.

I think these scenarios are likely for two reasons:

1.  Todd Haley said this was an “internal matter”

and

2.  Nobody else in the Chiefs’ locker room is talking.

When every player says, “No comment,” you know the team came in and asked for–in my favorite line from “The Closer”–”instant shut up.”

The Chiefs are in crisis mode and their team already sucks.  Not only did Bowe seal their fate for this season–they can’t get over the distraction–but he probably just got Haley, Pioli, and/or an assortment of Chiefs’ officials fired.

Troublemakers don’t just make their own trouble–they bring all your other troubles to light.

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• Keeping it Real is Going Wrong for the Steelers
• Gridiron Rumor Mill Ready to Spill
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One of the researchers Eric Corty has stated that he hopes people won’t think anymore that lasting forever is the way to satisfy the partner.

Corty also said that the questions in the survey were not gender specific and that both men and women had previously expressed wanting longer foreplay and sexual intercourse.

The editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Dr. Irwin Goldstein referred to a survey of 1,500 couples back in 2005 where the results indicated 7.3 minutes is the median time for sexual intercourse.

Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, has stated that it is hard for young and older men to have longer sexual intercourse.

Brandon further said that there are many myths in our culture regarding what other people do sexually. Contrary to popular belief, most people do not have as exciting a sex life as others think they have.

Corty, who is an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, and student Jenay Guardiani surveyed fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the United States and Canada. 68% responded while others said that the right amount of time depends on the couple.

Corty further said that this survey was done to give us a general idea of what therapists think as suitable among the couples that they see. So people who say that their partner lasts 5 minutes of 8 minutes will now say that it is okay. These people can now relax.

Source of the image: marieclaire.com.

Weight Loss

Sex in some terms is a kind of aerobic exercise. In fact, it burns fat extremely fast. For example, sex partners can use up as much as 200 calories (15 minutes of jogging on the treadmill) over one qualitative intercourse.

Stronger Muscles

Sexual intercourse involves work with such muscles as pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, and chest muscles. Sex hormones also boost testosterone formation, which leads to strengthening of the bones and muscles.

Reduced risk of Heart Diseases

Researchers from the Queen’s University found out that men who have sex three times a week or more are half as likely to go through heart attack and stroke than those who don’t.

Painkiller Effect

Immediately before orgasm, the level of hormone oxytocin is five times more than its regular level. This, in turn, leads to formation of endorphins which have sedative effect on any type of pain.

Reduced Likelihood of Flu and Colds

A study was held at the Wilkes University in Pennsylvania, which produced results claiming that people who have sex once-twice a week have higher levels of antibodies “immunoglobulin A” in their blood (higher by 30%) than those who engage in sex less frequently. Those antibodies strengthen our immune system.

Better teeth

Spermatoplasm contains zinc, calcium, and other minerals, which were proven to slow down destruction of teeth.

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Psychiatrist Morten Kringelbach from the Oxford University suggested in the Nature Reviews Neuroscience magazine to use a technique, which is already well-known to surgeons. It enables them to stimulate certain parts of the brain through the use of implantable electrodes. He suggested using those electrodes to simulate the so-called orbital-frontal cortex. The psychiatrist believes that stimulation of this area will cure anhedonia, a disease when the patient is unable to feel pleasure.

Kringelbach’s colleague, neurosurgeon Tipu Aziz told an astonishing story to The Sunday Times about a female patient with low libido, who had a similar chip implanted a few years ago. Apparently, the woman became very active in terms of sexual relationships after the implantation. Unfortunately, the lady did not like the “sudden change” and had the devise removed by specialists.

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Those thoughts greatly distract from the everyday activities. A survey held by the Men’s Health magazine revealed that 80% of men make dirty fantasies at work. What are they fantasizing about? The study made by Durex company showed that three quarters of men think about sex with celebrities. Every second man imagines having sex with his best friend’s girlfriend. Think about it the next time you share a beer with your buddy.

At the same time, erotic scenes practically constantly fight for attention in man’s subconsciousness. A study held by the University of Minnesota showed that a naked woman is constantly present in male brain. Man’s feelings are naturally focused on finding sexual opportunities, especially if no suitable female body is in sight.

Male body always has sperm, thus theoretically it makes him able to conceive at any time. From evolutionary point of view men need to use the sperm as often as possible in order to maximize the number of offsprings. To put it simply, men naturally are designed to pollinate everything that moves; furthermore, they are equipped with several structures to reach this goal.

Hypothalamus is part of the brain, which is responsible for emotions, heart rate, and thoughts about sex. Male hypothalamus is significantly larger than the female one. According to Dr Louann Brizendine, the author of popular-science bestseller The Femail Brain, we can imagine male sex thoughts centre as the international Heathrow airport, while female one as some regional airport.

Testosterone easily stirs up the brain areas responsible for recognition of sexual objects. Dr Brizendine said that this can be visualized as the situation when we are very hungry. Once hungry we become very attentive to food-related objects and concentrate on thoughts on where to get something tasty and more nourishing, and so on. By the way, male organism has twice as much testosterone at dawn than it does at any other time of the day.

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Alcohol and Erection Problems

There is a whole sea of beer-loving men suffering from impotence. Scientists reached this sad conclusion after conducting various serious studies. Apparently, women married to drunkards are the most sexually unsatisfied ladies.

Married ladies simply completely lose interest in the sex games and can not stand having sex with the half-drunk husband. Moreover, many of those wives can not reach orgasm or even feel full discomfort during the sexual intercourse. Husbands, who have problems with erection due to excessive alcohol consumption, are physically incapable to arouse the woman to the point of orgasm. Thus, the accumulated unused sexual energy of those women eventually transforms into sudden neuroses and breakdowns.

Tobacco and Impotence

Everybody knows that tobacco causes spasms in blood vessels and partially block the blood flow at the key moment to the key organ (the symbol of the male power and pride). Yet, at the key moment the “thing” hangs flat. 87% of men suffering from impotence are heavy smokers. This is a scientific fact.

Coffee and Premature Ejaculation

Third place goes to coffee. Excessive passion to this drink leads to blood vessel constrictions and, furthermore, to premature ejaculation.

Medications and Weakened Erection

Medications treat one issue, but may relax the “tool”. Men with hypertension or diabetes should be particularly careful with the dosage of the drugs prescribed to them. This group of drugs can essentially weaken erection.

The major libido-lowering factor for women is depressed state, which eventually leads to excessive consumption of relaxants.

Mechanical Attitude to Sex

If a man continuously sees sex as a type of sport (i.e. strictly physical action), then eventually he may reach a moment when he will simply not want it.

Obesity

The worst part of obesity hides in the fact that it creeps up slowly and unnoticeably. The more fat deposits on the body – the more energy is spent on carrying them around. It takes more energy to walk up the stairs, to go to the corner store, to do domestic chores, to work, etc. Shortness of breath is one of the first companions of obesity. The extra weight will have effect on the “bed games” as well. Where would a man get enough energy at night if he had to carry around the belly-tire for the whole day?

Neurologist Lorenzo Pinessi, president of the Italian Society for the Study of Headaches, delivered his findings at the opening of the International Conference in Turin. The study involved people suffering from migraines. The experiments showed that volunteers with severe headaches were engaged in extramarital affairs.

“We found men are more prone to this disease that is related to stress and higher blood pressure”, he told at the conference. According to Pinessi, men feel greater guilt of being unfaithful than it seems, which contributes to stress and anxiety. So Dr Pinessi advises unfaithful spouses “to take time-out from the affair and have a brain scan”.

She Touches You

Whether you have an intimate discourse in a cafe or at a restaurant, or you dance with her in a nightclub, she keeps touching you to show that she feels safe in your company.

She Sticks Around

She wants it in the following situation, for example: you came in a nightclub with her friends. When everybody left to dance, she stayed to have a chat with you.
Note: She might just don’t feel like dancing.

She Invites You for a Coffee

Perhaps, she does it out of courtesy, but “coffee” might suggest something else.

She Talks about Sex

She talks about sex when you are alone. It indicates she wants to have a sexual intercourse with you.

She Gives Complements on Your Sexuality

She ignores your new shirt and says she likes your chest muscles. If a woman pays a compliment on your body instead of your clothes, it means she wants it off.

She Watches Your Lips

When people speak to each other they usually have an eye contact. If she fixes her eyes on your lips, it means she wants more than words.

Note: If it’s noisy around, she might look at your lips trying to understand what you are talking about.

How to Be Sure?

If you have fun in a nightclub with her friends, ask her what’s she is going to do after dancing. Her answer will let you know if she wants to stay with you.

Being Careless about the Place Where You Are Going to Meet with Her

Every woman has her own idea about appropriate place and time, but if she is ok with your apartment, make sure it’s all clean and tidy. No bad smell, no pizza boxes, beer cans, unwashed dishes or dirty socks all over the place. Do the cleaning; take care about pleasant music and a bottle of wine.

Neglecting Prelude to sex

Usually, prelude is what gets a woman going. What should it be depends on how well you can feel your partner. Prelude is about making a lasting impression. If you neglect this part, your partner may not experience an orgasm. And that means she will want to forget the night she spent with you as soon as possible.

Ignoring Her Body Language

While most women are shy to be straight about what they want form the partner, their body speaks for them. Make sure you don’t ignore the signs. Watch her responses when you touch her, and you’ll get how to act.

Ignoring Her Erogenic Zones

Outside known erogenic zones, any woman has lots of other sensitive spots on her body, like collarbones, back or feet. Don’t be corny.

Thinking That If You Had an Orgasm, You Got Your Partner Reach It Too

Don’t forget about woman who wants to experience an orgasm just like you. Do your best to satisfy her.

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Show Interest

Women like it, when others are interested in their hobbies, especially their boyfriends. Ask about her wishes. When suggesting going out, don’t forget to ask her, where she would like to go. But always have an alternative just in case. If you bring her to a place she doesn’t like, you’re not going to get a lot from her.

If you ask about her wishes at a certain moment, this will be polite and will be appreciated by her. She will see, you’re interested in her and are not an egoist – you think not only about yourself, but in the first place about her wishes. Women like, when men behave like gentlemen. Such behavior of you will make her relax and feel safe with you, it will convince her, that she can trust you. If the woman trusts you, this is already half the work.

Eye Contact

Don’t forget to look a woman in the eyes, when speaking to her. Otherwise, in case it’s your girlfriend or wife, she’s going to suspect you in concealing something. Or, in case, it’s your first date, the girl can feel, you’re not interested in her – and this can push her away as well.

Smile

When you give a smile to her, you demonstrate, that you feel good. Make her sure, that you enjoy being with her with a sincere smile. This makes women confident, and they get ready more easily for more.

Be Funny

Make her smile, when you’re together – tell her some funny stories, for instance. If she has more positive emotions, when being with you, she likes you more.

Tell Her She Looks Good

Before a woman goes out, she spends a particular time on making up her appearance. She tries to look good. Imagine, you’re working out in the gym 4 times a week, your muscles grow fast, you look so huge, but nobody notices it – how would you feel? Women feel absolutely the same, when nobody notices, how good they look. Show her, you appreciate her efforts with a smile on your face, adoration in the eyes and a tender word about her fantastic appearance.

Talk to Her

This sounds primitive, but in reality lots of men don’t talk a lot to their girlfriends, even if they live together. In general, men speak less, than women. Talking is almost a physical, essential need of women. Satisfy this need – this will make her feel happy. And when your woman is happy, she’s ready to make you happy too.

Listen to her

Even if you’re absolutely not interested in the topic of the conversation (makeup, garments, her friend’s problems), say or do something showing you are – nod from time to time, ask questions and so on. And don’t forget to look her in the eyes, as already mentioned. If you look at something else, while she’s telling you something, you show indifference and push her away.

Remember the Anniversary

Most women remember the first day you met, kissed, had sex and so on. You not? Never tell her. Note all these dates in you phone and never have problems with it. She will appreciate it, as this demonstrates, you value her and the time you spent together.

Make Sure She Has Orgasm Every Time

If you’re already together and have regular (or not) sex, there’s one thing you must do. Every time you are together in bed make sure, that she’s satisfied as well as you. Lots of women lose interest in sex, because their sexual partners behave like egoists. Make her like sex by giving here orgasms every time, and you will get it more often.

Satisfy Her

Try to satisfy her every time you can. Here is meant not only sex, but also your everyday life. Or, at least, demonstrate you do your best for it. The logic is very simple: if she’s happy, she never gives you troubles and, vice versa, an unsatisfied (in all senses) woman behaves nervously and is always ready to conflict, even sometimes without understanding the reason herself.

What Is Premature Ejaculation?

According to one of the definitions, a man suffers from premature ejaculation, if he ejaculates before his sexual partner in more than a half of all times they have sex together. Other sex researchers claim, that premature ejaculation is a situation, in which the man ejaculates after two minutes of penetration.

Who Is Affected by Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation, or early ejaculation, may strike men of all ages. It affects about 35% of all men. But at least once in life every man experiences this problem. It often occurs to young men during their first sexual experience.

Why Premature Ejaculation Occurs

First of all, psychological factors contribute to the condition. Although most men underestimate the importance of emotions in sex life, they influence a lot. Stresses, conflicts with the partner, depression or common tiredness may lead to early ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation may also be caused by extreme arousal. If this is the case, then you’re lucky with the woman you have sex with.

How to Treat Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation can be normally easily treated, as it is a “brain” condition. The treatment usually involves sexual therapy, psychotherapy and medications.

• Sexual therapy helps to control ejaculation. Sometimes it consists of simple steps, such as avoiding sex and focusing on other kinds of sexual play for a particular period of time or even masturbation a certain time before sex.
• Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, means talking to a mental health professional about your relationships and problems. This may be a good way of managing stress, which is one of the main causes of early ejaculation.
• Medications involve antidepressants, which have delayed ejaculation as side effect, and local creams which dull the sensation of the penis and also delay ejaculation.
• In some cases just a certain type of condom could help.

You may try a few treatment methods before you and your doctor find the one most appropriate for you. Anyway, if you want to find a treatment of early ejaculation, consult your doctor first.

Steroids and Premature Ejaculation

There’s no evidence, that taking anabolic steroids may affect male health in the way that one would develop premature ejaculation. But, unfortunately, more serious conditions such as troubles achieving erection may be a side effect of the long-term steroid use.

What Is the Push and Pull Technique

The principle of Push and Pull technique is to control her emotions during a conversation. Be nice with her (“pull”), then right after it demonstrate indifference (“push” her away). Here’s an example. Establish a physical contact, touch her, show your interest, then move away a bit, push her off. Do the same in conversation. The most important thing is to find the balance between showing her you don’t care and you like her. Such behavior can make you more attractive to her.

Most women like to be persuaded. This means, when you suggest something, even if she would want to do this or to go there, she would not say “yes” immediately, she would wait until you try to persuade her. Don’t do this, if she does so, just say “no problem” and don’t insist. This would make her confused and understand, that you are not to play with.

Here’s is another example. In case, when she’s angling for a compliment by saying something negative about herself and expecting you say “no, you’re absolutely not fat, you’re so slim and beautiful”, don’t pay her compliments at all. Say something like “No problem, I like curvaceous women”. But be careful with negative (for her) statements, always mix “good” and “bad” messages. As said, find that balance, don’t try too hard, otherwise she could think, you’re brut and never want to have to do with you anymore.

Tips How to Seduce a Woman Using the Push and Pull Technique

The following tips how to seduce a woman should help you use the push and pull principle successfully.
Be self-confident. Even if you’re very nervous, show her, that you are cool and deadpan.

• Show your interest in her, but not all the time. Behave sometimes, as if you don’t care.
• Don’t be like other men.
• Don’t always give her, what she’s expecting from you.
• Be playful. Tease her.
• Be strong not only with muscles, dominate her in conversation.
• Be a challenge for her. A challenge increases woman’s interest in you.

Seducing Women Is Like Bodybuilding

Don’t try to please her too much. Leave some incompleteness. Never let her be sure about your attitude to her, otherwise you’ll bore her. People don’t appreciate what they have already got. Even children behave so: as soon as a little girl gets the desired toy, she loses interest and wants another one. It can also be compared to bodybuilding – you want to gain more muscle mass, as soon as you have reached a particular result, then, when you’ve done another step, you again want to “grow” further. The same thing can be said about women. Let them always have a goal, that is you, let them strive for something, provide them a challenge. And they will be all yours.

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