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What Women Want. The Push Pull Technique
Even if you look like Christian Gee, Vince Taylor or Schwarzenegger at his peak, you’re not going to be all women’s dream, if you have no idea, how to behave with them and what they are fond of. Women like you being nice with them, attentive to them, they want you to make court to them. But would it be a reliable tip to do all this to be also liked by them? Maybe, you already know, that being too nice with women won’t make you be a success with them. Sounds like a paradox? No, because there should be enough attention, and no more than enough. Using the push and pull principle provides it.
What Is the Push and Pull Technique
The principle of Push and Pull technique is to control her emotions during a conversation. Be nice with her (“pull”), then right after it demonstrate indifference (“push” her away). Here’s an example. Establish a physical contact, touch her, show your interest, then move away a bit, push her off. Do the same in conversation. The most important thing is to find the balance between showing her you don’t care and you like her. Such behavior can make you more attractive to her.
Most women like to be persuaded. This means, when you suggest something, even if she would want to do this or to go there, she would not say “yes” immediately, she would wait until you try to persuade her. Don’t do this, if she does so, just say “no problem” and don’t insist. This would make her confused and understand, that you are not to play with.
Here’s is another example. In case, when she’s angling for a compliment by saying something negative about herself and expecting you say “no, you’re absolutely not fat, you’re so slim and beautiful”, don’t pay her compliments at all. Say something like “No problem, I like curvaceous women”. But be careful with negative (for her) statements, always mix “good” and “bad” messages. As said, find that balance, don’t try too hard, otherwise she could think, you’re brut and never want to have to do with you anymore.
Tips How to Seduce a Woman Using the Push and Pull Technique
The following tips how to seduce a woman should help you use the push and pull principle successfully.
Be self-confident. Even if you’re very nervous, show her, that you are cool and deadpan.
- Show your interest in her, but not all the time. Behave sometimes, as if you don’t care.
- Don’t be like other men.
- Don’t always give her, what she’s expecting from you.
- Be playful. Tease her.
- Be strong not only with muscles, dominate her in conversation.
- Be a challenge for her. A challenge increases woman’s interest in you.
Seducing Women Is Like Bodybuilding
Don’t try to please her too much. Leave some incompleteness. Never let her be sure about your attitude to her, otherwise you’ll bore her. People don’t appreciate what they have already got. Even children behave so: as soon as a little girl gets the desired toy, she loses interest and wants another one. It can also be compared to bodybuilding – you want to gain more muscle mass, as soon as you have reached a particular result, then, when you’ve done another step, you again want to “grow” further. The same thing can be said about women. Let them always have a goal, that is you, let them strive for something, provide them a challenge. And they will be all yours.
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I find th above article unbelievably inaccurate of women. It is guys like the above that make it so hard of rnice guys. I have always been attracted to nice guys and for those guys out there who complain about girls don’t like nice guys. Those are the girls who constantly complain about their loser boyfriends only to continually find themselves in the same situation. I have no tolerance for guys who play games, I have been unfortunate enough to go out with those guys but fortunately no more than a couple of dates.
My boyfriend is the most loving, caring, generous, intelligent and everything else I want in a man. The reason we funciton so well is due to a lack of games in our realtionship and I am the one who has a tedency to get bored very easily. The guys who have bored me in the past are the ones who use the above mentioned techniques as the seldom have any substance to keep my interest on any other level and yes I have moved on.
So… coming from an intelligent and attractive woman who also happens to have a level head, take it from me guys the kind of girsl you are going to with with thes techniques are the ones you will eventually get bored of. And if they are a good catch they will quickly get bored of your games and you will be kicking yourself over the head like so many of my ex boyfriends tell me they are doing.
I am freinds with most of my ex boyfriends and I cannot honestly call anyone of them jerks or pricks, I didn’t pick gus like that. Even though we may have had other compatibility issues I still have respect for all of them.
So you dont have a boyfriend?
Actually I do have a boyfriend and we have been going out for about a year. As I wrote above, he is “the most most loving, caring, generous, intelligent and everything else I want in a man.” Apparently all the mind games have left you with limited cognitive capabilities and an inablility to read also. Ha ha.
Do you have a girlfriend? Probabaly not I imagine.
I agree -be a nice guy with no games or hidden agenda is the way to go.
While it may be just a one night stand-she will not call back if you are a jerk !
I nevr cheated on my last two wives but could not keep the ladies off me when I was with my first wife.After awhile a man just gives in to temptation no matter what.
I agree this article is absolutely NOT how most women would want to be treated. To me this rates right up their with lying. If you cannot be honest with me from the beginning, I am not interested. I would want someone to be their self, not play the cat and mouse game, that routine gets old fast.
Great article! I use this technique quite often and it works incredibly well.
There is no deception here, beautiful women enjoy a challenge. Notice how I said beautiful women, not average women with self esteem issues, but beautiful, confident women enjoy a challenge.
They get hit on by tons of “men” created from the same nice guy mold everyday and are not looking for somebody to tell them how beautiful they are. They are looking for a MAN with options. They want a confident, charismatic, and direct man who will not take their shit just because of their looks and is willing to walk.
It matters little to me whether you believe this works or not, belief does not equal fact. The proof is in the pudding my friends! Dig in!
~Carpe Diem~
K – you’ve got the right idea. This only works on certain women – confident, collected, and stunning women of achievement who want a partner in crime rather than a “yes man” who will – like so many others – become a clingy stalker. That last bit is key – this works best on women who fear clingy stalkers because they’ve had so many of them.
These women are heartbreakers – they have the male race figured out and few exciting mysteries are left to them. They’re also not very interested in commitment. They pride themselves on being unattainable and above the others. When you show them something totally different (even by forcing them down a peg or two) you leave them wondering – and right there you’ve won. Whether it’s a man or a woman, if you have them thinking about you, you’ve got their attention and will eventually win their heart.
…and I’m not just the Editor-in-Chief, I’m a client too
As the mother of 3 smart beautiful girls I can tell you I agree about the challenge thing. BUT, you can do those things and still have an honest relationship. I don’t really consider it a game as much as a way to guard your emotions and also as a way to flirt. My girls have had plenty of the guys that fall hard and fast for them and most of the time it is a big turn off if they show it too much, and money won’t buy them either, they’ve had many opportunities to use their looks and they have not and I’m proud of them for that. They want and are attracted to strong, secure, men, not braggarts or immaturity. If you want to develop a relationship with them you have to manage to stay around awhile and so understanding human nature is a plus but for most, this is not a planned behavior it is just part of their natural personality.
This is the most ridiculous article I have ever read. I am in my late 20′s now and I have no time for games. I can play games with the best of them, but if I wanted to play games I would get a Wii, or pull out a deck of cards. I want an honest, respectable man because I am an honest and respectable woman.
The proof is in the pudding but if these kind of games attract a woman to you more than you could probably just buy her anyways. LMAO
This article is too funny. You won’t get anywhere with these techniques… Think about this. You get a girl playing games and NOT being yourself. Eventually the games get old and so do you. GL- If anyone wants to chat my email is internalconfusion@hotmail.com
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I had my share of being a nice guy. and all I hear is “just friends” or being rejected. Thats why most guys are soo scared to talk to a woman because a woman wont give the guy a freaking chance. At least with this, a guy can have a better shot with a woman. Even if a guy just wants a relationship that doesnt revolve around sex, this can help. Im sorry but you women say this is stupid, but you’re the ones who made all of this happen. I feel for the guys who have no chance what soo ever.
Most women aren’t particularly attractive and they know this. They use techniques (makeup, clothes, hairstyles) to “enhance” their confidence level (build apparent attractiveness), yet will OPENLY tell you that appearance has little to do with inner character. The push pull technique is a way for men to build apparent attractiveness by making it clear that they feel they are high enough status not to just fold to whatever women want. I have no problem with being nice, or honest, or a gentleman. Is it nice to blow a guy off when hes says he’d like to go out with you? I’m sure women who post here have done it 100 times. And Push Pull is about as dishonest as a woman plucking her eyebrows.
I totally agree with this article. The beautiful (9 or 10 by society’s standards) need a way to weed out who likes them for their looks and looks only. Hot girls get hit on all the time and I am sure that when a girl became an adult around 18, 19 and she had guys in public hitting on her left and right and being really nice to her, she believed them and took it for face value. Then, those girls got SH_T on and hurt and wondered how in the heck could this guy who told me all these good things and did all these good things, have treated me so bad? Answer? Because he wanted to get in your pants and said and did what he had to do. When guys do this it totally hurts the guys who are actually nice because there is almost no way for a good guy to prove he really is because she will not fall for all that good stuff IN THE BEGINNING. This definitely is a technique I DO NOT believe will work in the long haul. It is just a good technique for a truely good guy to get his true self through the door.
This varies with lady to lady in all fairness. Im a self confessed ‘nice-guy’. Every lass I know has said that and yes i’ve had my share of ‘just friends’ and ‘more like a brother to me’. But there is one lass who had been with guys who’d played games and we got talking, went on a date and were virtually inseperable after that one date. We took it slow and really fell for each other. Its over now and Im heartbroken but we’re still really good friends, and I really hope we get back together in the future. I think we will do, because it ended amicably and we do still really care for each other, maybe in slightly different ways now but thre’s still something there. But it was because Im a nice guy and was 100% honest with her and respected her that I got to spend the most amazing 6 months of my life with the most incredible girl I’ve ever met. Gorgeous to look at, and lovely to talk to and spend time with. She really was, and still is, my dream girl. A few years ago a lass I knew through mutual friends told me she liked me a lot, but we would have to wait until she’d finished uni. I told her I felt the same way and agreed to wait until she’d finished. We drifted apart but got back in touch a while later, spent some time together as friends having days out and just enjoying each others company and having a really great time. I then told her I still really liked her more than as a friend, and she was kind enough to call me pathetic. I may be a nice guy but I didnt struggle to cut her out of my life, we’ve havnt seen each other since, and have had only a few phone and text conversations since then. Mostly its her moaning about guys playing games with her and saying all she wants is somebody who wants to spend time with her and not ditch her for lads nights out every weekend and only want her for sex. She also said the car I drive is her favourite ever and she’d love to be taken from behind over the bonnet. Girls play games all the time, just as much as guys do. But I never will, and I’ll always be a nice guy, because thats just who I am. I enjoyed giving the love of my life a single rose on many times when she’d get back to my house after finishing work for no reason other than just for being her, and regular candlelit bubble baths. I even learnt how to make a towel swan so it was sat on my bed waiting for her when she got back from work. The maid did it at the hotel we stayed in in Egypt, and we both had a great time and missed it so I thought it’d be a nice touch and she greatly appreciated it. But I enjoy doing that sort of thing and I’ll never change. And before any so called bloke’s bloke thinks Im some weedy sap, I’ll tell you now Im a bodybuilding nightclub doorman. Believe it or not, this girl does the same job, although you’d never think it to look at her. So it wasn’t because of my job we got together, she wasnt impressed by it or anything (It may sometimes look glamourous, but it really isnt. I really enjoy it, as does she but any lass that goes out with a doorman because he’s a doorman has issues within herself, I believe). The first time we got a chance to talk properly was in her car when she gave me a lift to where I was parked, and we just sat and talked for 4 hours, exchanged numbers, 2 days later went out on a date and spent the next 6 evenings together just hanging out talking and cuddling up on the sofa watching a dvd, and going out for a few quiet drinks. I was in love with her after 3 days, Sure, I was very smitten from the outset, but I can remember the exact moment I realised Id totally fallen for her, a good few days before we’d even gone past a quick peck on the lips. Despite being frustrated and rejected for ‘nice guy reasons’ for a good few years, those 6 months with my perfect girl were more than worth it, and we wouldn’t have got together at all had I not been just a genuinely nice guy.
Haya, I flirt with girls alot and generally have good success rate… until I meet someone i find amazingly attractive and then seem to lose them its driving me mad. just wondered if any of you had an idea what on earth i’m doing wrong cause it feels crap!!!!!
This is actually true. I gave my girlfriend everything i had, and she got annoyed. My friend (a girl) told me that girls do get annoyed when they are given everything from a guy (she gave me personal example). My friend who is dating a girl uses this and has been going out with her for more than 1 year. They argue a lot, but they still love each other and they always solve it. He told me that before he used to give everything to her, and she got annoyed, but they solved it and now he does this technique.
Hey all, this article is definitely accurate for beautiful women. You still can be correct and respectful towards these women but… they are poiled with attention from men. Being ‘different’ by not pursuing them too much, by not giving in too much (they are bored getting what they want), etc… makes you a special person. They do not have the necessary respect for the average “niceguy” because hundreds of men are “nice” to them… till the night they get her in bed and the it quickly vanishes… and they know that. So be different, be correct, be a man, stand where you stand and do not give in.
You have to be kidding!!! Any man who actually listens to this crap has no brain cells. You are giving totally bogus advice to men!!!! This push/pull method only serves to mess with self-esteem, create frustration and alienation to the point where a man will seriously get hurt. Your method would only work with extremely insecure and desperate women. So if that’s what you want, feel free. You have to be a totally weak and clueless man to actually think this crap works. A strong, independant and intelligent woman would see through this crap and kick your ass to the curb. What ever happened to honesty? You know, how mature and secure men relate to real women.
Women in the 21st century are smarter, more practical or realistic. For example, if they are given a choice between money and love. They will definitely choose money. Bad boys are more suitable to be boyfriends,just for fun…temporary. When it comes to live partners, they will always go for the nice guys. Playing games with a smart woman will always back fire. This article is so inaccurate.
this stuff is true
all the girls spouting all they want is a nice guy is bs, as all they do to nice guys is friend zone them
girls here don’t realise or like being able to be so easily manipulated
if they are as attractive as they say they are they probably manipulate boys into doing as they please as they know boys will do it as they are hot
bottom line is anyone looking for tips with women, probably can’t get them being themselves, and no, the occasional girl doesn’t cut it
for all you ppl out there that dont believe this, why dont you go out and try it? its proven fact that this is exactly what girls want. Even if a girl wants a nice guy when they wana settle down, dont you think you stand more of a chance if youve been with her and then show your nice guy side, else you wont even get the time of day with a women?
I reckon their is some truth to this, no one really likes it too easy. Everyone wants a little challenge and a bit of intrigue. That doesnt mean mind games. Mind games are the worst.
Its more about being yourself but understanding how to show it right.
So hilarous to see the coments of ranting women, Quick note guys women say one thing and mean another although they say this technique doesnt work have faith gentle man it does ! alas it may not find what i would call wife(y) material but 2-3 week fling of fun and games hell yh. Main thing is all about balance listen an absorb what she says an react to it accordingly then when you have had you fun drop her like a sack of spuds. ps i have great respect for women… the ones i care about anyway. where do u think the old saying comes from treat em mean keep em keen there is some truth in that. good luck comrades !
Hahaha! Calm the fuck down Janice! This technique works on all women who have real self esteem. You too! It just has to be congruent with the personality you are displaying and it will be impossible to see that you are doing it on purpose. The theory behind this, as mentioned earlier, is the FACT that nothing worth having comes easy and for that reason if a girl gets the feeling that she can make a guy her own personal tool, she doesn’t want to fuck him! It’s so simple! Of course this is far from enough to base any form of connection or relationship on but it is one of many tools used to captivate and maintain a womans initial interest. The point is that she has to EARN your respect before she will want to keep it! The funny thing about this is that all guys who have success with women do this naturally all of the time. But most ordinary women will rather die than admit that this is actually the way it’s always been working!
- AliFC
I was the first one to write a comment on this article and have since read all comments. First of all, since my last post I have been engaged to the same wonderful, honest, kind-hearted but yet confident and rocking in the bed man. I get hit often; did when I was single and still do. Meanwhile, my fiance frequently gets compliments on how lucky he is; based on my looks initially and later based on my personality, character and intelligence. The only thing I agree with above is that women like strong and confident men but by no means do they want a slimey, swarmy man who builds a facade of confidence through his games. The above games may work on the so called attractive women with low self esteem (yes there are plenty of them) who accept and respond to the mind games of equally sub-standard men but keep in mind these games only work if you are looking for a quick roll in the sack with a person with no substance and consequently no future. Good luck to all who actually think this works in the long run.
So true playing games with a smart woman will backfire..im dating this guy and it is so obvious he is doing this with me. Im so into him, but I have had my fill of this push/pull thing and so I have sadly decided to date other guys.(sick of the push/pull thing). Im not looking for games,..instead his personality, brains,time and deepth..along with fun in the bedroom,lol. This is what keeps a hot smart healthy/emotionally woman’s attention 4sure!
Wow all of you are stupid. The proof that you don’t know what you’re talking about are in your comments, this stuff works whether you want to admit it or not. I’m pretty sure all the girls that are commenting this are bitchy, slightly ugly but think they’re hot and want another way to weed out the wimps. So they post things that throw us of our game and try to confuse us at the source, but trust me guys these things work you are who make yourself, not what society makes you.
Haha after reading this i can honestly say that you women who deny this are clearly the average girl. I do this method to every girl i meet. And i get results i want… A phone number, and il let your imagination run free from here. The only reason you believe this is bull is because its not done to you, you are not seen as a prize in mens eyes. Attractive women are, and no prize comes free. You have to work, and this method reaps the reward, fast. You are not a man, you do not play the field. This advice makes our lives easier as we dont get hurt by being mr nice guy as it gets you no where in the begining, only once you get serious i agree. This method is void. As love conqueres all.
The point of this as so many nice guys have mentioned is to break out of the dreaded friend zone, I haven’t bother to read all of these posts, but as much as some of you ladies think these are games they aren’t. I couldn’t possibly like everything about you, would you like me more if I lied to you and told you that I did? With me that would never happen, being blatantly obvious that you are trying something with a girl is disastrous but any woman reading this can agree that you test guys in your random ways. This deals with not always showing how I’d love to do some very dirty things with you, at least initially until I can find out if you are someone on my level.
“Attractive women are, and no prize comes free. You have to work, and this method reaps the reward, fast. You are not a man, you do not play the field. This advice makes our lives easier as we dont ….bla, bla, bla. Attractive women to you are only objects, why spending your energy just to have sex with them, you can buy yourself an inflatable doll.
“Haha after reading this i can honestly say that you women who deny this are clearly the average girl. I do this method to every girl i meet. And i get results…bla, bla, bla. Average girl is what? Marie Curie was an average looking girl, but she earned Nobel Price, twice. Any women with brains-good, bad, or super-looking despises arrogant jerks, or maybe a wanker is a more suitable title.
Even my mother taught me to use push/pull…
The women here who are denying that the article don’t know themselves very well. That perhaps isn’t true, but they are certainly unaware of their subconscious. No woman in the world will tell you she isn’t attracted to nice guys… they will all claim the very opposite, and that they’re fed up with the ‘bad guys’. But the reality is, that they are ‘fed up’ because they have been emotionally hurt by these guys after wanting them badly.
Look at the bigger picture.
GK
Dead right!
First line is meant to read “The women here who are denying that the article speaks the truth”
Please help me….
I am in love with a girl.i dont talk to that girl,but she knows i am interested in her.Since 6 months i am going back of her and go once in a month or thrice in a month.she works in a company.
I went back of her in a bus after one month.She did not made any eye contacts near bus stop or even in bus.But she knows my presence.She was very quite in the bus thinking something.
But as soon as she got down from the bus, she walked a little distance and turned back and saw me suddenly.Like this turned back and she looked at me twice directly while walking.
She never saw me like that before.
I am realy confused, i do not know what to understand from this.
Please answer me what she is thinking abt me….
Do she likes me and wanting to talke with me?
or
Do she is irritated and hate going back of her?
please reply and help me plz..my email id aries_6484@yahoo.co.in
thanking you,
sushil.
People want to fuck and make love we all cant help it so even without push pull ,sex would be happening world over, the reason for push pull is down to women having stupid men throwing themselfs at them, do u see women doing this back as much fuck NO wake up guys n smell the coffee and learn to stop giving a fuck if she fancies you or not because if she wants to have sex with you she will and after that she will fuck someone else weather you like it or not why because A. she can and B. its naughter than fucking you, see women love hot hot hot sex and that is only available when its not supposed to be happning, because you her boyfriend is elsewhere oblivious
she might not do lots but if your best mate fancies her and he’s better at push pull than you well she’ll shag him, and if you disagree with that then you have to ask yourself a question, does push pull work or not? lol think about it read this over a few times, maybe the penny will drop that people are full of shit. 
mind games are for the fake! am real and what or who is for me in the bed wont go past me.
Nice one! If I could write like this I would be well chuffed. The more I see articles of such quality as this (which is rare), the more I think there could be a future for the Web. Keep it up, as it were.
Sounds intersting, Thanks for the nice post…
I find it interesting how many think these technqiues won’t work.
The true hilarity is the fact that these are used by men who are completely insecure. In all honesty they’re simply arrogant and conceited. Any fool can use ‘Charisma techniques’ like this, but it’s not about the technique itself, it’s about style. In my experience I find that these..antics work because of the user’s persona, not the technique itself.
I’ll provide an example; Say I talk with a lady for a short while, then I decide to use a Charisma technique to get her number, she gives it to me. It’s not because of the technique that I got it, even if I used the tackiest line in the book, she’d have given it to me anyway. People who use these techniques, and even look for these so-called-techniques just bring ruin upon themselves when they try to use them. Personal style is what it takes, be yourself.
I’m a smart, intelligent, young and beautiful woman and I have had men falling at my feet most of my life. It’s something as a woman you have to learn to take responsibility for and I’m the first to see through any game playing. I usually beat men who do this at their own game. And for me, this usually takes seconds. People I know use these techniques to fairly good effect – thought the girls they tend to attract (en masse) are lacking in morals, sleep with many men regularly, and usually carry STDs. I just wondered how men would respond if they found out they were being treated in the same manner?